The right fish must be out there somewhere…

I’m still relying on online dating to find me the right match. Do I have hope?…No. So why do I do it? I have no idea! It passes time and I don’t really meet guys any other way apart from a drunken kiss in a bar/club and them being a lot younger than me.

I attract some right weird people, in life and online too, my friends didn’t believe I receive so many odd messages online so I logged in and the first two were…

Seriously?! 99.99999% of the time I get boring ‘hey’ messages or weird messages like the above. Another example:

What is wrong with guys today?! No I do not want to sit on your face all day long, aside from that being uncomfortable for you I have things to do plus you’re just gross!

I’ve changed my age range I search in now to 29-35 (I’m now 30) as I know I need to stop finding younger guys, it always happens, I’d like to meet a hot mature guy who knows what he wants in life. Apparently that’s way too much to ask for and he doesn’t seem to exist but I have to have a tiny bit of hope right?! It’s not like I’m expecting to meet anyone now and I feel I have a guard up from dealing with arseholes, I just hope my turn to be happy with someone comes sometime soon…

Life is funny, it scares me as you don’t know what’s around the corner – good or bad – and it’s been a bumpy year. I thought it’d be my year but now I have to hope 2017 will be. My 30s will be my decade!


Dating update

So I’ve been talking to someone from Bournemouth for nearly 2 months now and we met on POF and then swapped numbers so mainly chat over whatsapp. I drunkenly called him last weekend and spoke to him too! Oops! Bad times on my part…

We’ve decided to meet up in Basingstoke next Wednesday evening for dinner. I’m so nervous and do have the feeling of what’s the point to be honest due to distance. He seems so lovely and we always have lots to chat about but being an hour and 45 minutes away when we both have fairly busy lives and he works some weekends could be difficult. I like the spontaneous ‘can I come round for a couple of hours’ messages etc and I know I won’t get that with him. But I feel I may be missing an opportunity if I don’t go as he could be the one I’m looking for, who knows…I think I will just go but can’t help the doubts which I’m sure everyone has and I’m sure nerves has a big part to play in my doubts too!

Also I matched with someone on Tinder that I knew from school but haven’t seen in about 10 years. He’s still local, we were never close at school but had mutual friends and grew up in the same village so I’ve known him probably since I was about 11. I always thought he was quite good looking so thought why not I’ll swipe right and then when I logged in last night there was a match and a message from him. He asked to meet up so I’m deciding whether that’s a good idea too at the moment.

There are options out there but I’m just not overly thrilled for some reason. Perhaps it’s because I need to learn to love myself first like the picture says as that is something I struggle with. How can I do that though?! Maybe booking a holiday to nyc to visit friends will be a first step to taking time out and spending a couple of days on my own exploring a new city and a new me and working out who that is and then staying with friends for a few days to reconnect and discuss the old times.

Led on…

Starting the day with anger is never good but it’s happened today. I’m still angry about being led on but the recent guy I was seeing but this morning I’ve noticed he’s back on pof and has changed his intent from ‘in a relationship’ to ‘dating but nothing serious’. At least he will be honest with future dates but why did I have to be the one that was led on?! Also he’s deleted me off facebook!

So I haven’t responded to his last message as I was hurt but more annoyed at letting myself get led on again! I really didn’t see it coming with him though as he was the one making plans, wanting to go on holiday and he said he’s been the happiest he’s been. He actually seemed a nice genuine guy. To be honest that was something I was unsure about as thought he was too nice. I know guys can’t win can they?! But how wrong was I?!


There’s a possibility I will bump into him at the gym so I’m going to be strong and ignore him as he should’ve messaged me again if he cared at all to see how I was after his revelation but instead he deletes me from his life. Argh!

I’m worried I’m going to really hold back from future dating now and be worried when I should just be able to try and enjoy it. When and where will I meet the one?!


Plenty of fish in the sea…

This is true, there really are plenty of fish in the sea but when you’re separated your salmon from your slippy eels you’re really not left with much to fish with! That’s my experience on pof (plenty of fish) anyways.

I get very odd messages from guys, today’s latest one is a man thinking he’s a caveman which you’ll see below! Does this really work and get responses normally for them?! My hopes are dwindling by the day but it’s addictive to log on like I’d go into facebook or Instagram or Twitter, yes I’m a bit of a social media addict if you couldn’t tell!


If it’s not an odd message it’s just a hi or hey. I’ve even written in my profile now to not message just saying hi as I won’t respond and I still get those messages, proves that guys aren’t actually reading the profiles properly…

There is one guy I’ve messaged a few times over the weekend who is actually easy to chat to and funny but he doesn’t live too close by, typical. Still it’s nice to chat to someone for now who isn’t a complete moron!

Comment with experiences you’ve had as I’d love to hear about them and know I’m not the only one. Also I’m interested in hearing from a guy about their experiences too.